It’s a process, it’s your process

One of the joys of staying in touch, through occasional updates to former attendees of my classes, is that sometimes I receive return emails letting me know how life is going, with a lesson for us all.  With permission, I am sharing J’s recent response to me.

Thank you for staying in touch…

I took your class at Holyoke Community College with the hopes of finding a way to move on from a bad “break” in nursing job.

Still no job, but I am helping others out as I am able in my community and in my church. I am trying to reconnect with others who have become empty nesters or retired and renew those friendships.

I will start enjoying a book club in the fall which I have never done. I’ve joined the local garden club.

I find myself cooking for others, puttering in the garden and supporting my husband as he begins a new job at age 63. I am happy.

So what I find I’ve been doing has kept me content and I am enjoying not having pressure to “do something”.

I do worry about money, but my husband says not to.. can’t say I listen!!

…. I am open to possibilities.  The more I engage with others, I feel an opportunity will present itself.

To me, J’s response is a wonderful testament to the need to take time–the need to engage in a transitionary process and be patient throughout.  Time to make peace with a tough “ending” and recover from a very stressful job. Time to explore new activities.  Time to be content with who one is, try new things, and pay attention to what satisfies the soul.

Fortunately J has the wherewithal, with the support of her husband,  to be able to take time and create space for her process.

May we all.


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Expanding possibilities

Expanding your possibilities may mean narrowing your focus.  Yet another paradox to play with for those who have the capacity to hold onto opposites and still function with a positive outlook.  There is always a small part of the world which needs your contribution, the contribution only you can joyfully make.

Caring passionately about something whittles the world down to a more manageable size.

It makes the world seem not huge and empty but full of possibility.                    ~ Susan Orlean


What do you care about?  What’s important to you?  What would give you great joy to tackle?


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My lens of delight

Last week, I went to an amazing musical program performed at Smith College–an oratorio created from the The Diary of Anne Frank.   Tempted by the title and the novelty of the concept, I went without expectation, and found myself mesmerized by the music of Anneliese by  James Whitbourne, sung by two professional choirs,  accompanied by 4 instruments and a soloist.  But it was the bonus delivered up by my “do what you love” lens that really caught my attention. Continue reading